I find it interesting that in the LGBTQ and feminist communities, people fight against being defined by who they sleep with yet insist on defining my inclusion in either community by who I sleep with. If I am with a woman, I am seen as a lesbian and part of the LGBTQ community. If I am with a man, then I am straight and excluded from LGBTQ. If I am with a woman people think I am a feminist. If I am with a man, especially a Dom, the assume I am enforcing heteronormativity. This is incredibly frustrating to me.