Monogamy is an idealized relationship style. Its “all-or-nothing.” One slip up – one flirtation leading to a kiss, one sexual encounter, one Facebook message exchange gone to far and your perfect monogamous relationship is blown up. This does not mean monogamy is somehow “unnatural” or “wrong” in terms of relationship styles. It does mean that how we think about monogamy as a culture needs some adjustment. Likewise, I am not an “open relationship or nothing” type of girl. I h

People who practice ethical non-monogamy talk a lot about what it means to be ethical in a non-monogamous relationship. But what about people who are monogamous? Most folks I know assume monogamy is the baseline for a relationship and that it means the same thing to everyone. People in monogamous relationships often feel no need to discuss what they expect from monogamy and what that means to them. And this is a problem. Monogamy is the only “acceptable” relationship style mo

People who practice ethical non-monogamy talk a lot about what it means to be ethical in a non-monogamous relationship. But what about people who are monogamous? Most folks I know assume monogamy is the baseline for a relationship and that it means the same thing to everyone. People in monogamous relationships often feel no need to discuss what they expect from monogamy and what that means to them. And this is a problem. Monogamy is the only “acceptable” relationship style mo

I spend a lot of time talking to people and reading social media boards by both polyamorous and monogamous folks. Universally, people are not as monogamous or as polyamorous as they claim they are. Over the years, I have begun to see the labels of “poly” and “mono” like the political systems of capitalism and communism. There is a big difference between the theory of capitalism and its manifestation. The same goes for communism. In poli sci we talk about the difference betwee

I spend a lot of time talking to people and reading social media boards by both polyamorous and monogamous folks. Universally, people are not as monogamous or as polyamorous as they claim they are. Over the years, I have begun to see the labels of “poly” and “mono” like the political systems of capitalism and communism. There is a big difference between the theory of capitalism and its manifestation. The same goes for communism. In poli sci we talk about the difference betwee