So You Want to Try a Threesome…One of my favorite old BritComs is Coupling (sort of the British Friends). In one of the episodes the highly sexed Patrick announces that...
Embracing Sex WritingI am an accidental sex/kink blogger. This site started five years ago as a book promotion site for a book I really didn’t think too many...
I’m Tired. Can We Just Shut Up and Fuck?I’m feeling old and crotchety after a month of Pride. Maybe its because I have been doing Pride for more than three decades and it is not...
Adult Playtime: Adding Games to Your Love LifeOne of the things I have always loved about BDSM and kink is the value it puts on play. Kinky folks call all the different activities we...
7 Reasons to Masturbate RegularlyMost folks I meet assume that I have sex all the time so I must not need to masturbate. Truth be told, my partner lives a couple of hours...
Episode 9: 40!!!https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-gpaia-9ee5de 40!!! Guests: Evie Vane (author, blogger) and Tina Hayes (Belly Dancer/Model) Auntie...
10 Things Everyone Can Learn from KinkOne of the most fortuitous events in my life was discovering the kinky world at about the same time I started puberty. It provided me...
What 100 Hours of Talking to Sexy Peeps Taught MeI launched my podcast project Fat Chicks On Top a few months back. I have been recording and building content since March. Its been a...
Make Pride Queer AgainIt’s June, Pride Month. I have been out for three decades and have spent most of that time as a queer rights advocate. I have very mixed...
Identifying vs. BecomingIn the kinky world we use a lot of labels. Queer, kinky, top, bottom, Master, slave, Domme, submissive, baby girl, pet, Daddy, switch,...
Free the Pussy, Free the WorldI have spent nearly 30 years working in political activism. My graduate work in political psychology focused on identity, education and...
Adding the K to “LGBTQ+” – NOThere is a new call to add a K for “kink” to the LGBTQ+ acronym. This call for more inclusion has highlighted a couple of issues in both...
7 Tips for the New SwitchSo you want to try switching things up. Great! There are a lot of benefits to switching power positions (e.g., a submissive trying...
Switching It UpA couple of months ago I was performing with Bawdy Storytelling and had the great pleasure of hearing Race Bannon tell a story about the...
The Submissive’s Body & Chronic PainThe submissive’s body is a unique thing. Our body is ours, first and foremost. We have the right and the responsibility to keep it safe....
Olly Olly Oxen FreeWe come out today because Cleve designed and Gilbert sewed; Alvin danced And RuPaul doesn’t always wear pants. Leslie got the Stone Butch...
Hef, Playboy, & American SexWith the passing of Hugh Hefner today, lots of sex writers and educators are reflecting on his influence on their lives and work. It is...
The Problem with PassingI pass as a heterosexual cis-female and I hate that. I have always passed (well, more or less) regardless of what I wear, my hair,...
Landmines and PrideEveryone fucks up. It is the result of being human beings. Pride this year has presented one million more ways for us to screw up and...
Bi PrideIt’s Pride month again. This is the second year pride comes when I have a male partner and we are exclusive. This makes pride events...