The theme of healing through kink has come up repeatedly in both my reading and real life a lot lately. For me, this is a touchy subject....

It’s great that vanilla America is finally discovering the idea of consent. Not our judges or politicians apparently, but a large number...

This weekend, the call for women (sic, originals post was problematically gendered) to post “me too” on their Facebook page to indicate...

It is Pride month. This year is particularly politically charged. There are fights about adding black and brown stripes to the Pride...

One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...

One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...

The worst part of the aftermath of being raped was being told over and over again that I must report the rape. Every health professional...

The worst part of the aftermath of being raped was being told over and over again that I must report the rape. Every health professional...

By now, you have probably seen images from BDSM/kink movies or pornography. You may have tied up a date or given someone a spanking. It’s...

By now, you have probably seen images from BDSM/kink movies or pornography. You may have tied up a date or given someone a spanking. It’s...

When someone says they were raped, many people ask, “So, did you say ‘no?'” It is a common question in court and in police...

When someone says they were raped, many people ask, “So, did you say ‘no?'” It is a common question in court and in police...

Consent is one of these topics that comes up all the time in the kink community. It will come up in the wider world after a horrific rape...

Consent is one of these topics that comes up all the time in the kink community. It will come up in the wider world after a horrific rape...

I was invited to roast a friend’s husband for his birthday last night. She started the show by mentioning they had just finished a 27 day...

I was invited to roast a friend’s husband for his birthday last night. She started the show by mentioning they had just finished a 27 day...

I was working on my next blog post about measures around sex and research findings and planned on posting it today, then the American...

I was working on my next blog post about measures around sex and research findings and planned on posting it today, then the American...

The first time I underwent education to prevent rape was in 7th grade. I was 11 years old. The girls PE class was given a week of...

The first time I underwent education to prevent rape was in 7th grade. I was 11 years old. The girls PE class was given a week of...