For those of you unfamiliar with Fetlife, it is a social media site for kinky folks (kinky defined very broadly). Currently, there is a...

The other night I was at a poetry open mic billed as a “safe space” for the LGBTQAII community. As per the norm in such spaces, the host...

A friend of mine, an immigrant from Eastern Europe, just became an American citizen. Upon receiving her passport, she posted on Facebook...

A friend of mine, an immigrant from Eastern Europe, just became an American citizen. Upon receiving her passport, she posted on Facebook...

In The Princess Bride one character keeps using the term “inconceivable.” Every time he says something is inconceivable the thing...

In The Princess Bride one character keeps using the term “inconceivable.” Every time he says something is inconceivable the thing...

I have never chosen a partner to make a political point. However, I live in a country where my body and my sexuality are constantly under...

I have never chosen a partner to make a political point. However, I live in a country where my body and my sexuality are constantly under...

I love the BDSM community. I love kink. It is integral to who I am and how I see the world. I love the aesthetic, the values, and the...

I love the BDSM community. I love kink. It is integral to who I am and how I see the world. I love the aesthetic, the values, and the...

When I woke to news of the mass murders in Orlando last month I was devastated. The pain was visceral. I cried for days. Dozens of my...

When I woke to news of the mass murders in Orlando last month I was devastated. The pain was visceral. I cried for days. Dozens of my...

I love Dan Savage. I think his “It Gets Better” campaign is brilliant, timely, and more than necessary. Since I saw his original video he...

I love Dan Savage. I think his “It Gets Better” campaign is brilliant, timely, and more than necessary. Since I saw his original video he...

I write a lot about interracial dating and am open that I tend to date Black men. I want to address the personal ads and online dating...

I write a lot about interracial dating and am open that I tend to date Black men. I want to address the personal ads and online dating...

The timing of this post is prompted by a discussion currently occurring on Fetlife (major social network site for the kink community). A...

The timing of this post is prompted by a discussion currently occurring on Fetlife (major social network site for the kink community). A...