There are different theories on how people “should” deal with pain. Some folks argue for being present with the pain. Some argue for focu...

Being a service sub myself, much of my joy in life comes from caring for other people. I get an absurd level of joy from things like cook...

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-2jizs-a4090b Bonus Clips!! Our producer CharRon has put bonus material together from some of our m...

Living with anxiety is a bitch. We all experience anxiety at some point in our lives. However, lots of folks live with anxiety as part of...

I launched my podcast project Fat Chicks On Top a few months back. I have been recording and building content since March. Its been a per...

When I was in one of my basic psychology courses in undergrad, the professor described sublimation with the following example. Say you ha...

The theme of healing through kink has come up repeatedly in both my reading and real life a lot lately. For me, this is a touchy subject....

It’s National Mental Health Awareness Month so lets talk about power exchange and mental illness. Depending on the source, between 20 and...

News headlines are floating around about 20 percent of Millennials identifying as “non-binary.” This is based on a new study by GLAAD wor...

I find being agender weird. Most days, really about 98 percent of the time, I could care less about my gender. I am a feminist for politi...

I find being agender weird. Most days, really about 98 percent of the time, I could care less about my gender. I am a feminist for politi...

By most accounts, unless you are a rape-y cheeto with narcissistic personality disorder, this was a shit year. People are hoping 2017 wil...

By most accounts, unless you are a rape-y cheeto with narcissistic personality disorder, this was a shit year. People are hoping 2017 wil...

I know that seems counter-intuitive to most people. Isn’t the role of an s-type based on giving power, sometimes total power, to a D-type...

I know that seems counter-intuitive to most people. Isn’t the role of an s-type based on giving power, sometimes total power, to a D-type...

What is portrayed in the popular media makes a big difference. Not a profound statement,  but most people- even those who agree- often do...

What is portrayed in the popular media makes a big difference. Not a profound statement,  but most people- even those who agree- often do...

I have been overwhelmed by the number of stories in the past few weeks about the horrors brought about by men who did not feel like they w...

I have been overwhelmed by the number of stories in the past few weeks about the horrors brought about by men who did not feel like they w...

I debated a lot before I decided to post this blog entry. I have been active in the LGBTQ movement for thirty years now. I know the damag...