Why Collars Are Important to BDSMGuest Post By: Spices of Lust Your BDSM experience is personal to you — and your partners. It’s meant to be whatever you make of it, and...
Flip It and Reverse It: Protocols for DominantsI adore having protocols in a relationship. Those rules and rituals power exchange couples create to serve their relationship provide a...
5 Skills for Fighting Fair in Kinky RelationshipsHealthy couples fight. Most healthy couples don’t fight often, but disagreements do arise, emotions heighten and we fight. Its actually a...
Fetlife Protest Isn’t Just a “Feminist Thing”For those of you unfamiliar with Fetlife, it is a social media site for kinky folks (kinky defined very broadly). Currently, there is a...
Pronoun Wars, Part IIThe other night I was at a poetry open mic billed as a “safe space” for the LGBTQAII community. As per the norm in such spaces, the host...
Why We Should Care About Sex TapesThis morning Trump released a barrage of tweets speculating that former beauty queen Machado had made a sex tape. Of course, as with most...
Why We Should Care About Sex TapesThis morning Trump released a barrage of tweets speculating that former beauty queen Machado had made a sex tape. Of course, as with most...
Is Submission a Gift?“Submission is a gift.” I hear that phrase constantly in the kink community. I hear submissives say it. I hear Dom(me)s say it. Switches...
Is Submission a Gift?“Submission is a gift.” I hear that phrase constantly in the kink community. I hear submissives say it. I hear Dom(me)s say it. Switches...
Body Confident? Hell no!I have had a lot of conversations with people lately about body image and work. My public image and my work is largely based around sex...
Body Confident? Hell no!I have had a lot of conversations with people lately about body image and work. My public image and my work is largely based around sex...
30th AnniversaryThis year marks 30 years of activism for me. In 1986 I started my first volunteer gig with and HIV/AIDS outreach and support organization...
30th AnniversaryThis year marks 30 years of activism for me. In 1986 I started my first volunteer gig with and HIV/AIDS outreach and support organization...
Is Sex Always Part of BDSM?I have had a bunch of conversations lately about incorporating sex into BDSM play. Some people have to have both in a session, others do...
Is Sex Always Part of BDSM?I have had a bunch of conversations lately about incorporating sex into BDSM play. Some people have to have both in a session, others do...
Feminism, Bad Feminism, Choice, and SubmissionI am a feminist. I am a submissive. This is my choice. There is no conflict between the two for me. However, my submission is not an act...
Feminism, Bad Feminism, Choice, and SubmissionI am a feminist. I am a submissive. This is my choice. There is no conflict between the two for me. However, my submission is not an act...
Myths About SubmissionI want to talk about perceptions versus reality of submission. There are a lot of misconceptions for both vanilla folks and newbie...
Myths About SubmissionI want to talk about perceptions versus reality of submission. There are a lot of misconceptions for both vanilla folks and newbie...