Love Letters to a Unicorn

a blog about sex from the submissive position

Guest Post By: Spices of Lust Your BDSM experience is personal to you — and your partners. It’s meant to be whatever you make of it, and ...

I adore having protocols in a relationship. Those rules and rituals power exchange couples create to serve their relationship provide a s...

Healthy couples fight. Most healthy couples don’t fight often, but disagreements do arise, emotions heighten and we fight. Its actually a...

For those of you unfamiliar with Fetlife, it is a social media site for kinky folks (kinky defined very broadly). Currently, there is a g...

The other night I was at a poetry open mic billed as a “safe space” for the LGBTQAII community. As per the norm in such spaces, the host w...

This morning Trump released a barrage of tweets speculating that former beauty queen Machado had made a sex tape. Of course, as with most...

This morning Trump released a barrage of tweets speculating that former beauty queen Machado had made a sex tape. Of course, as with most...

“Submission is a gift.” I hear that phrase constantly in the kink community. I hear submissives say it. I hear Dom(me)s say it. Switches ...

“Submission is a gift.” I hear that phrase constantly in the kink community. I hear submissives say it. I hear Dom(me)s say it. Switches ...

I have had a lot of conversations with people lately about body image and work. My public image and my work is largely based around sex a...

I have had a lot of conversations with people lately about body image and work. My public image and my work is largely based around sex a...

This year marks 30 years of activism for me. In 1986 I started my first volunteer gig with and HIV/AIDS outreach and support organization...

This year marks 30 years of activism for me. In 1986 I started my first volunteer gig with and HIV/AIDS outreach and support organization...

I have had a bunch of conversations lately about incorporating sex into BDSM play. Some people have to have both in a session, others do ...

I have had a bunch of conversations lately about incorporating sex into BDSM play. Some people have to have both in a session, others do ...

I am a feminist. I am a submissive. This is my choice. There is no conflict between the two for me. However, my submission is not an act ...

I am a feminist. I am a submissive. This is my choice. There is no conflict between the two for me. However, my submission is not an act ...

I want to talk about perceptions versus reality of submission. There are a lot of misconceptions for both vanilla folks and newbie kinkst...

I want to talk about perceptions versus reality of submission. There are a lot of misconceptions for both vanilla folks and newbie kinkst...