I’m feeling old and crotchety after a month of Pride. Maybe its because I have been doing Pride for more than three decades and it is not...

For those of you unfamiliar with Fetlife, it is a social media site for kinky folks (kinky defined very broadly). Currently, there is a...

I have spent nearly 30 years working in political activism. My graduate work in political psychology focused on identity, education and...

There is a new call to add a K for “kink” to the LGBTQ+ acronym. This call for more inclusion has highlighted a couple of issues in both...

It’s great that vanilla America is finally discovering the idea of consent. Not our judges or politicians apparently, but a large number...

This weekend, the call for women (sic, originals post was problematically gendered) to post “me too” on their Facebook page to indicate...

We come out today because Cleve designed and Gilbert sewed; Alvin danced And RuPaul doesn’t always wear pants. Leslie got the Stone Butch...

The other night I was at a poetry open mic billed as a “safe space” for the LGBTQAII community. As per the norm in such spaces, the host...

It is Pride month. This year is particularly politically charged. There are fights about adding black and brown stripes to the Pride...

Everyone fucks up. It is the result of being human beings. Pride this year has presented one million more ways for us to screw up and...

Kink, in many forms, is now more popular and more visible than ever. I knew we had gone mainstream when American Dad, Family Guy and...

A friend of mine, an immigrant from Eastern Europe, just became an American citizen. Upon receiving her passport, she posted on Facebook...

A friend of mine, an immigrant from Eastern Europe, just became an American citizen. Upon receiving her passport, she posted on Facebook...

Let’s talk about the idea of “religious freedom” and why it is absolutely imperative for all of us to be as queer and kinky as possible....

Let’s talk about the idea of “religious freedom” and why it is absolutely imperative for all of us to be as queer and kinky as possible....

Lately I feel like I am watching one of those suspense or horror films where the protagonist makes a mistake in the beginning (e.g.,...

Lately I feel like I am watching one of those suspense or horror films where the protagonist makes a mistake in the beginning (e.g.,...

Hey my kinky peeps! I love you. I do. But, as a community, we have got some work to do. We are not inclusive as we should be. We are...

Hey my kinky peeps! I love you. I do. But, as a community, we have got some work to do. We are not inclusive as we should be. We are...

I am sick about the news from Orlando this morning. I am sick of living in a country that allows churches and mosques and temples to...