I’ll be honest, I have never been a huge cat fan. I mean, you adopt this pet who poos in your house, who is petty and controlling, and wh...

We talk a lot about negotiation in the kink scene. Negotiating what you will and will not do, what you want and what your partner(s) want...

The great thing about the advent of the internet, search engines, and millions of pages with information about kink/BDSM is that it has a...

I love planning scenes. Figuring out the details, setting up the situations, and preparing the tools and clothing for a scene has always ...

Power exchange relationships have many similarities to vanilla relationships. Both require kindness, understanding, communication, and su...

We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people po...

We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people po...

If I am really honest about some kink behavior, it looks like abuse out of context. I have seen more than one play scene where the bottom...

If I am really honest about some kink behavior, it looks like abuse out of context. I have seen more than one play scene where the bottom...

One of the core principles of BDSM play is that players, all players, have a right to protect their body and mind. We stress consent, neg...

One of the core principles of BDSM play is that players, all players, have a right to protect their body and mind. We stress consent, neg...

One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk a...

One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk a...

At some point in the last decade culture in the United States started demanding that people be certain about everything. We collectively ...

At some point in the last decade culture in the United States started demanding that people be certain about everything. We collectively ...

Consent is one of these topics that comes up all the time in the kink community. It will come up in the wider world after a horrific rape...

Consent is one of these topics that comes up all the time in the kink community. It will come up in the wider world after a horrific rape...

I love Dan Savage. I think his “It Gets Better” campaign is brilliant, timely, and more than necessary. Since I saw his original video he...

I love Dan Savage. I think his “It Gets Better” campaign is brilliant, timely, and more than necessary. Since I saw his original video he...

Simple answer… yes, yes it is. Regardless of what you do, it is weird to someone. One the the most shocking things I do or say is that I ...