10 Things EVERY Kinky Person Should TryWe all have our limits, be they soft or hard. Not everyone likes spanking. Not everyone enjoys rope. We are all loosely bound by our...
Embracing Sex WritingI am an accidental sex/kink blogger. This site started five years ago as a book promotion site for a book I really didn’t think too many...
10 Things Every Bottom Should KnowGuest Post by Peter Minkoff (Homo Culture Magazine) *This article is written mostly for gay men but has great advice for anyone engaging...
I’m Tired. Can We Just Shut Up and Fuck?I’m feeling old and crotchety after a month of Pride. Maybe its because I have been doing Pride for more than three decades and it is not...
Make Pride Queer AgainIt’s June, Pride Month. I have been out for three decades and have spent most of that time as a queer rights advocate. I have very mixed...
Identifying vs. BecomingIn the kinky world we use a lot of labels. Queer, kinky, top, bottom, Master, slave, Domme, submissive, baby girl, pet, Daddy, switch,...
Fetlife Protest Isn’t Just a “Feminist Thing”For those of you unfamiliar with Fetlife, it is a social media site for kinky folks (kinky defined very broadly). Currently, there is a...
If You Don’t “Get” Non-Binary, Read ThisThe more I read about nonbinary folks and the more I see cis folks try and talk about nonbinary folks, the more I understand that this is...
Adding the K to “LGBTQ+” – NOThere is a new call to add a K for “kink” to the LGBTQ+ acronym. This call for more inclusion has highlighted a couple of issues in both...
Consent 201It’s great that vanilla America is finally discovering the idea of consent. Not our judges or politicians apparently, but a large number...
Is Non-Binary the Future of Gender?News headlines are floating around about 20 percent of Millennials identifying as “non-binary.” This is based on a new study by GLAAD...
What Most Bi Folks Won’t Tell YouTwitter has decided they want to wipe out bisexuality. Over the past week, Twitter has hidden any photos with the hashtag “bisexual.” The...
Olly Olly Oxen FreeWe come out today because Cleve designed and Gilbert sewed; Alvin danced And RuPaul doesn’t always wear pants. Leslie got the Stone Butch...
The Problem with PassingI pass as a heterosexual cis-female and I hate that. I have always passed (well, more or less) regardless of what I wear, my hair,...
Pronoun Wars, Part IIThe other night I was at a poetry open mic billed as a “safe space” for the LGBTQAII community. As per the norm in such spaces, the host...
Sex and the ResistanceIt is Pride month. This year is particularly politically charged. There are fights about adding black and brown stripes to the Pride...
Landmines and PrideEveryone fucks up. It is the result of being human beings. Pride this year has presented one million more ways for us to screw up and...
Bi PrideIt’s Pride month again. This is the second year pride comes when I have a male partner and we are exclusive. This makes pride events...
Should Kink Assimilate?Kink, in many forms, is now more popular and more visible than ever. I knew we had gone mainstream when American Dad, Family Guy and...
Liminal ExistanceA friend of mine, an immigrant from Eastern Europe, just became an American citizen. Upon receiving her passport, she posted on Facebook...