Why Collars Are Important to BDSMGuest Post By: Spices of Lust Your BDSM experience is personal to you — and your partners. It’s meant to be whatever you make of it, and...
Submissives and Self CareBeing a service sub myself, much of my joy in life comes from caring for other people. I get an absurd level of joy from things like...
Topping From the BottomI can’t believe I haven’t written a blog post on topping from the bottom! How could I be so remiss of addressing a topic which comes up...
5 Questions for a Kinky First DateThe great thing about the advent of the internet, search engines, and millions of pages with information about kink/BDSM is that it has...
5 Skills for Fighting Fair in Kinky RelationshipsHealthy couples fight. Most healthy couples don’t fight often, but disagreements do arise, emotions heighten and we fight. Its actually a...
If You Don’t “Get” Non-Binary, Read ThisThe more I read about nonbinary folks and the more I see cis folks try and talk about nonbinary folks, the more I understand that this is...
Adding the K to “LGBTQ+” – NOThere is a new call to add a K for “kink” to the LGBTQ+ acronym. This call for more inclusion has highlighted a couple of issues in both...
Switching It UpA couple of months ago I was performing with Bawdy Storytelling and had the great pleasure of hearing Race Bannon tell a story about the...
Is Non-Binary the Future of Gender?News headlines are floating around about 20 percent of Millennials identifying as “non-binary.” This is based on a new study by GLAAD...
What Most Bi Folks Won’t Tell YouTwitter has decided they want to wipe out bisexuality. Over the past week, Twitter has hidden any photos with the hashtag “bisexual.” The...
Olly Olly Oxen FreeWe come out today because Cleve designed and Gilbert sewed; Alvin danced And RuPaul doesn’t always wear pants. Leslie got the Stone Butch...
Non-binary: Real or Rebellion?Hello Readers! Sorry I have been away for so long. I had a severe infection and no help from doctors. But, despite the deplorable state...
The Problem with PassingI pass as a heterosexual cis-female and I hate that. I have always passed (well, more or less) regardless of what I wear, my hair,...
Bi PrideIt’s Pride month again. This is the second year pride comes when I have a male partner and we are exclusive. This makes pride events...
Should Kink Assimilate?Kink, in many forms, is now more popular and more visible than ever. I knew we had gone mainstream when American Dad, Family Guy and...
In Praise of “Just a Phase”We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...
In Praise of “Just a Phase”We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...
Liminal ExistanceA friend of mine, an immigrant from Eastern Europe, just became an American citizen. Upon receiving her passport, she posted on Facebook...
Liminal ExistanceA friend of mine, an immigrant from Eastern Europe, just became an American citizen. Upon receiving her passport, she posted on Facebook...
Kinky ResistanceLet’s talk about the idea of “religious freedom” and why it is absolutely imperative for all of us to be as queer and kinky as possible....