Sexier Sex? Plan for it!I can remember the first time I read Macho Sluts by Pat Califia. While all the sex was really hot, a few of the stories stood out because...
Why Collars Are Important to BDSMGuest Post By: Spices of Lust Your BDSM experience is personal to you — and your partners. It’s meant to be whatever you make of it, and...
Free the Pussy, Free the WorldI have spent nearly 30 years working in political activism. My graduate work in political psychology focused on identity, education and...
Adding the K to “LGBTQ+” – NOThere is a new call to add a K for “kink” to the LGBTQ+ acronym. This call for more inclusion has highlighted a couple of issues in both...
Switching It UpA couple of months ago I was performing with Bawdy Storytelling and had the great pleasure of hearing Race Bannon tell a story about the...
Consent 201It’s great that vanilla America is finally discovering the idea of consent. Not our judges or politicians apparently, but a large number...
Is Non-Binary the Future of Gender?News headlines are floating around about 20 percent of Millennials identifying as “non-binary.” This is based on a new study by GLAAD...
Power of ApologiesI have been thinking a lot about apologies lately. Nationally, men have been issuing varying forms of apologies for sexually harassing...
Beyond ” Me Too”This weekend, the call for women (sic, originals post was problematically gendered) to post “me too” on their Facebook page to indicate...
Hef, Playboy, & American SexWith the passing of Hugh Hefner today, lots of sex writers and educators are reflecting on his influence on their lives and work. It is...
Non-binary: Real or Rebellion?Hello Readers! Sorry I have been away for so long. I had a severe infection and no help from doctors. But, despite the deplorable state...
The Problem with PassingI pass as a heterosexual cis-female and I hate that. I have always passed (well, more or less) regardless of what I wear, my hair,...
Pronoun Wars, Part IIThe other night I was at a poetry open mic billed as a “safe space” for the LGBTQAII community. As per the norm in such spaces, the host...
On Being “Beautiful Ugly”Guest Author: Joie de Vivre Joie de Vivre is a the co-producer of Peepshow in San Francisco and a burlesque performer. She regularly...
Bi PrideIt’s Pride month again. This is the second year pride comes when I have a male partner and we are exclusive. This makes pride events...
Talking to Fat Girls About Your BodyI am a fat girl. I have been for a long time. I don’t mince words or try and elide the fact that I am fat. I am okay with it. Most people...
Should Kink Assimilate?Kink, in many forms, is now more popular and more visible than ever. I knew we had gone mainstream when American Dad, Family Guy and...
In Praise of “Just a Phase”We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...
In Praise of “Just a Phase”We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...
Stop Hitting Yourself!In The Princess Bride one character keeps using the term “inconceivable.” Every time he says something is inconceivable the thing...