So You Want to Try a Threesome…One of my favorite old BritComs is Coupling (sort of the British Friends). In one of the episodes the highly sexed Patrick announces that...
National "Weird Sex" DayValentine’s Day in America is basically the National Day for Weird Sex. After the age of 18 most of us feel the social pressure to do...
Introduction to Cock and Ball BondageGuest Post by Jett Oxy Perhaps you have always fantasized about binding balls, but not quite sure about your ability to pull it off?...
Sexier Sex? Plan for it!I can remember the first time I read Macho Sluts by Pat Califia. While all the sex was really hot, a few of the stories stood out because...
Why Collars Are Important to BDSMGuest Post By: Spices of Lust Your BDSM experience is personal to you — and your partners. It’s meant to be whatever you make of it, and...
What Owning a Cat Taught Me About Kink, Polyam, and SexI’ll be honest, I have never been a huge cat fan. I mean, you adopt this pet who poos in your house, who is petty and controlling, and...
10 Things Everyone Can Learn from KinkOne of the most fortuitous events in my life was discovering the kinky world at about the same time I started puberty. It provided me...
Negotiation 101 for Subby TypesWe talk a lot about negotiation in the kink scene. Negotiating what you will and will not do, what you want and what your partner(s) want...
Sexual Healing (part 1)The theme of healing through kink has come up repeatedly in both my reading and real life a lot lately. For me, this is a touchy subject....
Planning a SceneI love planning scenes. Figuring out the details, setting up the situations, and preparing the tools and clothing for a scene has always...
Fetlife Protest Isn’t Just a “Feminist Thing”For those of you unfamiliar with Fetlife, it is a social media site for kinky folks (kinky defined very broadly). Currently, there is a...
Adding the K to “LGBTQ+” – NOThere is a new call to add a K for “kink” to the LGBTQ+ acronym. This call for more inclusion has highlighted a couple of issues in both...
Consent 201It’s great that vanilla America is finally discovering the idea of consent. Not our judges or politicians apparently, but a large number...
Power of ApologiesI have been thinking a lot about apologies lately. Nationally, men have been issuing varying forms of apologies for sexually harassing...
Beyond ” Me Too”This weekend, the call for women (sic, originals post was problematically gendered) to post “me too” on their Facebook page to indicate...
Sex and the ResistanceIt is Pride month. This year is particularly politically charged. There are fights about adding black and brown stripes to the Pride...
Submission and VulnerabilityIt is probably the most common thing I hear or see written about submission: The submissive is really the one in charge. The sub can stop...
Submission and VulnerabilityIt is probably the most common thing I hear or see written about submission: The submissive is really the one in charge. The sub can stop...
Consent: 2016 sstyleOne of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...
Consent: 2016 sstyleOne of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...