One of my favorite old BritComs is Coupling (sort of the British Friends). In one of the episodes the highly sexed Patrick announces that...

Valentine’s Day in America is basically the National Day for Weird Sex. After the age of 18 most of us feel the social pressure to do...

Guest Post by Jett Oxy Perhaps you have always fantasized about binding balls, but not quite sure about your ability to pull it off?...

I can remember the first time I read Macho Sluts by Pat Califia. While all the sex was really hot, a few of the stories stood out because...

Guest Post By: Spices of Lust Your BDSM experience is personal to you — and your partners. It’s meant to be whatever you make of it, and...

I’ll be honest, I have never been a huge cat fan. I mean, you adopt this pet who poos in your house, who is petty and controlling, and...

One of the most fortuitous events in my life was discovering the kinky world at about the same time I started puberty. It provided me...

We talk a lot about negotiation in the kink scene. Negotiating what you will and will not do, what you want and what your partner(s) want...

The theme of healing through kink has come up repeatedly in both my reading and real life a lot lately. For me, this is a touchy subject....

I love planning scenes. Figuring out the details, setting up the situations, and preparing the tools and clothing for a scene has always...

For those of you unfamiliar with Fetlife, it is a social media site for kinky folks (kinky defined very broadly). Currently, there is a...

There is a new call to add a K for “kink” to the LGBTQ+ acronym. This call for more inclusion has highlighted a couple of issues in both...

It’s great that vanilla America is finally discovering the idea of consent. Not our judges or politicians apparently, but a large number...

I have been thinking a lot about apologies lately. Nationally, men have been issuing varying forms of apologies for sexually harassing...

This weekend, the call for women (sic, originals post was problematically gendered) to post “me too” on their Facebook page to indicate...

It is Pride month. This year is particularly politically charged. There are fights about adding black and brown stripes to the Pride...

It is probably the most common thing I hear or see written about submission: The submissive is really the one in charge. The sub can stop...

It is probably the most common thing I hear or see written about submission: The submissive is really the one in charge. The sub can stop...

One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...

One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...