We all have our limits, be they soft or hard. Not everyone likes spanking. Not everyone enjoys rope. We are all loosely bound by our...

I’m feeling old and crotchety after a month of Pride. Maybe its because I have been doing Pride for more than three decades and it is not...

It’s June, Pride Month. I have been out for three decades and have spent most of that time as a queer rights advocate. I have very mixed...

For those of you unfamiliar with Fetlife, it is a social media site for kinky folks (kinky defined very broadly). Currently, there is a...

There is a new call to add a K for “kink” to the LGBTQ+ acronym. This call for more inclusion has highlighted a couple of issues in both...

A couple of months ago I was performing with Bawdy Storytelling and had the great pleasure of hearing Race Bannon tell a story about the...

It’s great that vanilla America is finally discovering the idea of consent. Not our judges or politicians apparently, but a large number...

I have been thinking a lot about apologies lately. Nationally, men have been issuing varying forms of apologies for sexually harassing...

I pass as a heterosexual cis-female and I hate that. I have always passed (well, more or less) regardless of what I wear, my hair,...

I want to address the apparently growing trend of discovering and practicing kink without connecting to actual humans you are not having...

The other night I was at a poetry open mic billed as a “safe space” for the LGBTQAII community. As per the norm in such spaces, the host...

Everyone fucks up. It is the result of being human beings. Pride this year has presented one million more ways for us to screw up and...

It’s Pride month again. This is the second year pride comes when I have a male partner and we are exclusive. This makes pride events...

Kink, in many forms, is now more popular and more visible than ever. I knew we had gone mainstream when American Dad, Family Guy and...

I find being agender weird. Most days, really about 98 percent of the time, I could care less about my gender. I am a feminist for...

I find being agender weird. Most days, really about 98 percent of the time, I could care less about my gender. I am a feminist for...

We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...

We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...

A friend of mine, an immigrant from Eastern Europe, just became an American citizen. Upon receiving her passport, she posted on Facebook...

A friend of mine, an immigrant from Eastern Europe, just became an American citizen. Upon receiving her passport, she posted on Facebook...